Do you ever fall into the trap of trying to keep everybody happy? I used to be quite the “people pleaser” and it only contributed to my anxiety. In today’s episode, David Hoffmeister is going to give you a totally new perspective on people pleasing and we will also dive into the teaching from A Course in Miracles on “no private thoughts.” David’s examples and teachings are sooo helpful!
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In honor of David’s book launch, we did a video interview! Listen to the audio above or watch the video below:
Big news:
David’s book, This Moment is Your Miracle, is hot off the presses! My endorsement from the inside cover says, “Although the process of transcending fear is not always easy, it is simple, and David’s explanations and exercises guide you to claim the happiness that is your birthright.” You will love this book! Order your copy today.
About David Hoffmeister:
Mystic David Hoffmeister is a living demonstration that peace is possible. His gentle demeanor and articulate, non-compromising expression are a gift to all. He is known for his practical application of the non-dual teachings necessary to experience the Unified Mind. His clarity about the function of forgiveness in spiritual awakening and his radical use of mindful movie-watching in the release of judgment is unsurpassed. The purity of the message he shares points directly to the Source. Over the past 33 years, David has traveled to 44 countries across 6 continents to extend the message that Truth is available for everyone, now.
Corinne’s Takeaways:
I tried to keep this to three takeaways, but couldn’t help myself! Here are five gold nuggets from this episode with David:
- “Let your yea be yea and your nay be nay.” Get clear with Spirit on whether your answer needs to be “yes” or “no.” As David says, you can ask Spirit for help in being true to your “yes’s” or “no’s.” Staying aligned with your guidance helps keep us free of anxiety.
- “Radiate that Divine happiness from the core of our being, don’t try to personally go around and make every person happy.” I LOVE how David said this! What a beautiful reframe of people pleasing. Our job as miracle workers is to see with Spirit’s vision and spread love, it’s NOT about making the level of form “happy” for others.
- David shared this quote from A Course in Miracles: “Truth is restored to you through your desire, as it was lost to you through your desire for something else” (FIP T-20.VIII.I). We have to WANT the Truth. We have to WANT healing. We have to WANT to undo the ego! Ask yourself with radical honestly if you want these things. Whatever your answer is be willing to look at it with Spirit.
- Don’t hide your thoughts from Spirit. Bring everything to Spirit. Whether you begin by journaling, speaking to another person you trust, get those hidden and repressed ego thoughts out of your holy mind so you can bring them to Spirit.
- Go back to the “Rules for Decision” section in A Course in Miracles If you get stuck. For instance, let’s say you’re angry and you intellectually know that your anger isn’t justified but you’re still stuck in anger (e.g. you’d rather be “right” than “happy”). Experiment with the question, “At least I can decide I do not like what I feel now” and take your willingness to feel and see something differently to Spirit. You can read the full “Rules for Decision” in Chapter 30 part I in both the FIP and CE editions.
Resources Mentioned:
- Levels of Mind (David’s diagram of the mind)
- This Moment is Your Miracle (David’s new book)
- This Moment is Your Miracle Book Bonuses
- Living Miracles Center
- Movie Watcher’s Guide to Enlightenment
Let’s keep the conversation going in our Facebook group!
Awesome stuff!
Thank you very much for sharing this message. David really nailed some of your interesting questions.
Bless you both.
Peace
He totally did. 🙂 Many blessings!
I love your questions Corrine and really appreciate you noting your take aways for us to read and think about. Thank-you for sharing such an inspiring interview and such a great lessons (there were many) on ACIM. I am very grateful. Many blessings…
Thank you Linda! I find that the takeaways are really helpful for learning. It’s just hard to only pick a few! So glad you enjoyed the episode.
That was one of the best sharing I’ve learned from! I’ve carried the Course in my heart for years and you only inspired me to apply deeper and deeper all the freedom that is ours with DESIRE TO MEET our hidden selves – and find it cowering in the Light we are! Thank you for meeting your own fear with yourself and sharing this freedom for other captives!
I’m so glad you enjoyed it, Janis. And I’m thrilled to hear the episode has inspired you to go deeper. xo
I have enjoyed this episode … a lot!
Thank you so much
Love Margie
I’m so glad! xo
Thank you both for a fantastic podcast. What a relief to know that although our thoughts are not private, we don’t have to blurt them out, and we don’t have to fear that other humans can read those thoughts! Hooray!
Isn’t that a relief? Hooray, indeed!
This has nothing to do with this beautiful truth with David – but I couldn’t get into the comment section of the audio I just heard about your trump election talk which took place long ago but I HAD to tell you the power that talk had on me just now. It’s hidtory now but still, everyday has a present reality to it that affects me. Trump is in that daily “reality” but the release Of a true healing was so apparent in listening to that audio file on your. I’ve been challenged by the long ago election and the volume of judgment has been turned way down since then. But what I was really able to hear were the principles of truth that he represents to us as a teacher. The authority to be the teacher is by the holy spirits appointment, and us, as students have had the curriculum greatly changed ( as in the middle of the night!) and we have been directed to witness the teacher as the one within us— not trump as the teacher. That was so apparent in this powerful audio!! Thank you for doing that timeless recording and bringing higher perception to us until truth replaces the need fir this as a perception🙏
Hi Janis! I’m SO glad that recording about the election was helpful. I love what you said: “we have been directed to witness the teacher as the one within us.” Politics, like any area that challenges us, is a grand opportunity to awaken.
If anyone reading wants to listen, here is the link: https://fromanxietytolove.com/the-trump-election-a-course-in-miracles-and-an-opportunity-for-healing/
Thank you for doing the podcasts again. I really enjoyed this one. Greatly appreciate that you list your takeaways. I find them very, very helpful.
I’m so glad, Maryanne! Thanks for listening.
Lovely podcast and beautiful presented with smooth flow and narration. Enjoyed it thoroughly.
Thank you so much, Roopak!
BonJour Corinne 🙂 Thank you very much for what you’ve been doing/ Being! I’ve listened few times to the audiobook of your book from Anxiety to love. And I will get the physical version of your book soon 🙂 Thanks for both and making even more practical and accessible the Course. I love that you share “your private thoughts” or “personal” stories with the audience in the book, and took the time to explain few principles in a simple manner. I think you have helped me to gently get back into the Course. I wanted also to thank you for the Sunday group. I can’t join because of the time difference zone. And I’ve been enjoying the recordings with you as a facilitator and also Deedre ( she is so lovely and genuine) and the bosom other companions. I love your insights and open exploration. Little question for you: I am curious to know what would be your thoughts after this interview with David about “question everything” after this interview with David. It is something I can hear a lot and yet I am not sure I know what to do with this interesting invitation. With Gratitude and Love, Sabrina from Paris
Hi Sabrina!
Thank you so much for your kind words and support. They mean so very much to me. I’m also thrilled to hear that you are a part of our Sunday study group. It is such a wonderful and loving group!
Regarding your question, to me “question everything” is an invitation to “hold onto nothing,” as ACIM teaches. It means that rather than assume that our perceptions and beliefs about everything are accurate, we can instead hold them lightly, knowing that our perception is faulty apart from Spirit. Truth remains unchanged no matter what we perceive, so we give what we see to Spirit to be reinterpreted for us. I hope that helps! Sending much love xo
Thank you very much Corinne 🙂
I’ve just send a request to be part of the FB group as I’d love to keep the dialogue.
Love,
Sabrina
Hi Sabrina! That’s awesome… Can’t wait to keep chatting with you! 🙂
Dear Corinne,
Thank you for your beautiful podcast and unending insights. I have a question please, about the notion of no private thoughts. I have been struggling with this recently as I’ve had a call to reveal everything. Not wanting to keep secrets or to lie, and not wanting to hold anything inside out of shame or a lack of transparency. However, I am also unclear as to where the line is drawn and have been known to ‘overdo’ it in revealing details to those closest to me. However, what about things like sexual desires that we would usually only share with our partners or alone, if we do not have a partner? Essentially, my question is, what is considered inappropriate sharing: is anything? Does ACIM promote sharing ALL our deepest thoughts? I feel this could potentially lead to difficulty so I’m confused. Thank you in advanced.
Hi Jenny! Thank you so much for your comment. I feel we can get into trouble (in other words the ego can take over) when we take a teaching and apply it with a blanket application. The key is to ALWAYS ask the Holy Spirit, “what would you have me do, what would you have me say?” There may be times when sharing something private is going to be hurtful (e.g. “Hey! I think your dress is ugly!”) and we must remember that miracles are expressions of LOVE. So ask for guidance in any situation in which you are unsure. And if you’re not sure what the guidance is, I’ve found it best to wait until I’m clear. Hope that helps! xo
Hi Corinne,
Thank you so much for doing this episode. I stumbled on your podcasts after not knowing what ACIM was, but being led to you by the holy spirit. I’ve had bouts of anxiety. Especially after I had cancer which recurred twice. The last time I took it hard, because I had 2 very little children. I began looking into miracles. Stumbled on your podcast. And this episode had me fascinated with the Levels of Mind which David explains. From there I became a fan of David’s and an ACIM student. I am so thankful for all of your podcasts, but in particular this one holds a special place in my heart. God Bless!
Hi Eric, Thank you so much for sharing your journey with me and the story of how you were led to ACIM. It is beautiful. I am sending you so much love. We truly do not walk alone.